FW 67 - The 2 AM Lifeline - How to Cultivate Your Circle of Unbreakable Support

“A man that has friends must show himself friendly: And there is a friend that sticks closer than a brother." - Proverbs 18:24

Introduction:

Hey FIERCE Mama,

Welcome to the FIERCE Wednesdays newsletter, where I provide weekly tips and stories to help burned-out moms find purpose and love life. I do this every other week through my FIERCE methodology, which you can read in four minutes or less. Each tip/story will fall into one of my six-step FIERCE methodology steps. Click here to learn more about the FIERCE methodology. 

I celebrated my birthday over the weekend, and it was lovely. I love birthdays because they are an intentional celebration of life. I am excited about what is to come and the woman I am becoming.

This week, I want us to sit on the floor with our cups of tea and chat about our 2 AM crisis person.

Have you experienced those nights when everything just piles up? You wake up with a bolt; it’s 2 AM, and here you are, trying to figure out how to manage another meltdown, school project, or never-ending to-do list. Or worse, you received a call and are officially in the middle of a crisis. Sometimes, it feels like your ability to juggle it all is slipping right through your fingers, leaving you feeling alone and overwhelmed.

When it gets like this, who do you call? Because really, how rich is our life if we don’t have that one friend or person who gets it, who will listen without judgment when we need to unload, or that person who can stay up with you praying through the 2 AM crisis?

There’s this verse I love, Proverbs 18:24, that says, “A man that hath friends must show himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.” It’s about how friendships are a give-and-take. Finding that friend or small circle who becomes like family, who sticks by us even at our messiest, is everything for us moms.

No one should feel like they’re going it alone. Having friends who are just a call away can be our lifeline through this wild ride of motherhood and life. It’s not about having many friends but the few who walk with us and who we are called to walk alongside.

Creating these bonds takes real effort, but it’s worth it. So, how can we create and build those go-to relationships?

Vulnerability

The most significant way I have found to develop strong bonds is to be authentic. Let’s not hide the messy parts. Being open about our struggles can bring us closer.

For many strong, visionary women, the concept of vulnerability can seem contradictory. You're often celebrated for your strength, resilience, and ability to forge ahead in challenging circumstances. However, vulnerability isn't a weakness—it’s a strength that can deepen relationships, foster intimacy, and build trust. Here’s how you can start letting your guard down, even when it's uncomfortable:

You don't have to reveal all your deepest fears and dreams immediately. Begin by sharing minor struggles or frustrations. Gradually opening up, even in small ways, allows you to gauge the reaction of those you trust and build confidence in being more open. It also makes other people more willing to open up because they see you also have struggles.

Dear Mama, you’re likely striving for excellence in everything you do, which can make imperfection unacceptable. But part of vulnerability is accepting that you don’t have all the answers or always make perfect choices. By accepting and sharing your imperfections, you help to set realistic expectations for yourself and others.

It’s tempting to think you can handle everything on your own, but expressing your needs isn't a burden on others. Allow your trusted circle to support you, whether it's through praying, offering advice, listening, or helping out practically. Asking for help makes your relationships more reciprocal and balanced.

So, who’s your 2 AM call? Let you and I nurture those friendships that truly matter. They’re our rock when things get rough and our cheerleaders when things go right.

Here’s to friends who are more like family. May we all find strength in those relationships, share in each other’s joys, and always have that special someone to lean on.

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Stay FIERCE and relentless in your pursuit of significance!

Ugochi

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QUOTE OF THE DAY 

"A man that has friends must show himself friendly: And there is a friend that sticks closer than a brother." - Proverbs 18:24